Kids are back...

So my kids came back Saturday from their 6 week, very chaotic, trip to see their dad in CA. Here's some of the things my kids told or texted me while away...

"Mom M had a tantrum today because daddy told her he just wanted to take me to Harry Potter alone. She started screaming and throwing things...later on S (her daughter) said she thought daddy and I should be able to go alone. M screamed bloody murder in her face for being on his side instead of her. Then she kicked her out of the house for the summer. S was crying a lot." (S is only 10 years old)

"Mom, M is trying to take the tires of the van so daddy can't take us anywhere. She's mad because daddy took her off his facebook....Daddy is coming home early from work to deal with her....She's crazy!"

"M is taking all our clothes that she bought for us. She screamed at us, if your mom has money to buy new boobs, she can buy you new clothes!"

"Did you talk to M today mommy?" (me): "No way" "M said she talked to you and you told her we were going to be in trouble for seeing Jet." (I told T that was a complete lie. She knew it too)

"M called daddy the a (asshole) word several times in front of everyone. She said you were lucky to be done with daddy. She said daddy was such a jerk."

"Daddy broke up with M today. We are going to Grandma's house. I only got to go to gymnastics once..."

"Grandma told daddy he needs to keep us away from M..."

"Daddy said he was sorry for moving too fast with M....that now when he dates he will wait a year before they get together."

"Daddy had family home evening with us. We watched a church movie about families."

"M called the cops on daddy while we went to visit Jet. She said we couldn't see him unless we wore face masks, so we don't get him sick.... We aren't even sick."

"Daddy says grandma thinks M is crazy...He says everyone at his work thinks she's crazy too."

Obviously, there's a lot to process here, for all of us. I've related these events to some, and usually they laugh at it all with an "I told you so" or "what a dumbass." Part of me feels that of course, but mostly I feel horrified and disturbed that my children have had to witness this mess; all the while their father plays "victim" whose been so horribly mistreated by this "crazy" woman.
"Poor daddy," my children think. I told my daughter that nobody made her dad be with M. He chose this himself. He brought this on himself. He is not innocent. I believe she understands. I also think his "apology" to my children is quite ludicrous...."I'm sorry I moved too fast with M...." Are you insane?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You slept with their mother's best friend numerous times, got her pregnant twice while still married to their mother!! You left your family!!! You chose to be with M over your children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You chose sex over your children!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But, all you can say is, oops, Sorry kids I moved too fast. What as ass! loser! hypocrit!!

While the kids with their dad in Hell, I texted him this: "The children do not deserve any of this. I hope one day you will wake up and take responsibility for the choices you've made that have so grossly affected our children..." He replied "Ookee..." He's used this before in the past as a reply to someone who is crazy...