My legal bill is now $18,500 and quickly rising. I haven't even gone to trial yet and the divorce probably won't be finalized until end of summer, if I'm lucky, if J doesn't keep fighting me. Let's also not forget the $10,000 my father-in-law is demanding from me. I'm also several thousand dollars in debt in credit cards just to cover monthly expenses. Pretty soon I will have no retirement, no savings, no health insurance, no house, possibly no car, and a mountain of debt-- all a priceless gift from my beloved dear husband of 14 years.
But, after it's all said and done, if I can retain custody of my beautiful children I will feel extremely grateful and blessed. At the end of the day, God is God and he is mindful of me and my children. I am confident our needs will be met in His way, not mine.
Bubble girl,
ReplyDeleteWe are similar situations! Although, if divorce is the direction we go, who knows what that will cost...
The legal person I spoke with months ago said most of the time debt is split no matter what it was spent on... He said though if I do divorce, hopefully I won't be awarded that lovely gift from my husband's addiction....
We've got a house that is TOO big and TOO expensive for the current bills we have, but if we sold (and this is even at the highest price possible), we'd loose around $20,000 or more (mind you this is a mostly money from MY childhood retirement and IRA accounts- which we wiped clean to buy the house). So, looks like we're going to rent it and I'll be heading into my own dumpy apartment with my son.
We took a student loan last fall for my husband to go to school 'full time' (in which he cheated on me full time instead) for $11,600.
This doesn't include the $4500 we owe my parents for our new windows and the $1600 we just paid them back for loaning us tuition money.
On top of that we've got the $20,000 in secret credit card debt used for PORN!
I shutter to think of what a divorce will cost... what a nightmare...
As for insurance... I'm working full time for that only to pay $700 a month for daycare.
Oh and did I mention that my husband quit his job yesterday?
Yup... so basically... it sucks!
As if the betrayal and pain and heartache isn't enough for us, but we've got this financial crap to worry about!!
When does it end?
Seriously Bubble Girl, I'd love to get together sometime if you're up for it. (I think I got your number a while back?? Is that you?? I assume it is you... )
Hang in there... the custody of those children will better than all the money in the world... or lack there of in your case...
Know that you are not alone... I'm right here with you... did I mention that I'm a mess and my positive attitude ain't so positive anymore? I think it's sinking in... I'm hurting so bad... I can't stop crying today :(
xoxo